I head off tomorrow to San Fransisco, and then out of the US for the next 3 months.
I haven’t had a serious travel adventure like this in probably 3 years, so I’m anxiously looking forward to the long trip.
This vBlog shows how I have been slowly developing my video editing skills, and thinking more about “B roll” and what to add in the mix to keep the vids fresh and not just me standing in front of another landmark for 10 minutes.
I should be able to get some real cool footage coming up in the different environments I’ll be traveling to, so looking forward to that.
As for the rest of my life, I’m back on it pretty hard in the club, getting lots of new insights from new found success. SO JAZZED.
My online business is starting to jump off pretty nicely again, and I’m going to be starting a NEW self development and business related blog so I can get really into that stuff as well, while keeping this one more within the dating niche to make sure I don’t dilute the content too much.
I also have been hitting it hard in the gym, and starting to get JACKED. Jeyah, nice to finally develop working out into a full on habit, not gonna let that one fall off this time.
Sweet! Today I want to give you a video that explains a problem many guys have when they get into self development.
The dissonance between being motivated, and incorporating a more Eastern philosophical “Every thing is as it is, and be cool with it” mentality.
The question that I used to get from guys was how to incorporate both the Tony Robbins “Achieve!” mindset with Eckhart Tolle’s “Just be present and enjoy the moment!” concept.
Now that I’ve gotten more into Branden and Rand’s philosophy of being highly productive, with high self esteem selfish type of guy, this, just like Robbins advice, superficially jives with the Eastern “be in the now” mentality.
But on a deeper level, there is an immense corollary between the two schools of thought.
The Eastern philosophical example I use in the video is the Zen koan:
“You can wash the dishes to wash the dishes. Or you can wash the dishes, to wash the dishes.”
Meaning that you can do a task because it is necesarry, i.e. you have dirty dishes that need to be cleaned, or you can do something, be mindful of it, and enjoy the process by being fully present, and enjoying that connection of full attentiveness to your reality.
This is “being in the now,” this is “full presence.”
Yes, you can achieve it sitting in the woods and meditating, but it can also be achieved by being a highly productive individual.
This is why people are drawn to sports, or playing live music, because it forces you into the present moment, and this is where true creativity lies, in that presence where you are solely focused on the task at hand, and amazing shit comes out of that focus.
It doesn’t mean you have to chill back and do nothing; but do EVERYTHING, and do it awesome.
This is the same concept I talk about in the Mind Excellence article. Doing everything you can as well as possible.
From here, the better you get at focusing your attention on the task at hand, the more confidence you have in doing that task properly, as well as reinforcing your ability to ALWAYS maintain your focus on whatever demands it.
That creates true self esteem as you learn to control your focus more, as opposed to living dependently in reaction to your environment.
You are in control, taking full responsbility, and develop the trust in yourself that you will have the right answer.
And, as I’ve said before, if you screw it up horribly, as long as you acted from the total knoweldge you had available, you shouldn’t identify with the result, identify with the fact that you CHOSE to act, with the best intentions you had possible.
Pick up the pieces, analyze the rubble, and move forward with more knowledge, and take confidence in that you just reinforced to yourself that you always take action, with 100% conviction, and increased your knowledge to better deal with the situation the next time it happens.
See ya next week, I’ll probably be writing this in a sea full of blonde hair, the land of the Swedes.
Any suggestions for future vids? I’m still tweaking so always looking for new ideas to improve the structure.
Brad Branson has been an international dating coach with the leading dating company Real Social Dynamics for 3 years.
Through his own success and teaching experience, he has taught HUNDREDS of men how to create the dating life they desire.
He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.