This Game is Messy! Stop the Perfection Problem

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Last night was pretty sweet, found a new club in Amsterdam through a new friend.  He’s one of the Mehow instructors living here in Amsterdam, pretty solid dude…

So we were out hitting up sets, I found one crazy cutie, but sadly she had class early the next day, and I straight cut-throat kindly excused myself.  Logistics fool!

Something I noticed later on was interesting though…

If you might remember I was having a sticking point about a week or two ago where I felt like I was relying too much on approach invitations to give myself permission to approach.

It happened again last night, found a girl who gave me the laser eyes and probably would have pulled her but she had to run to take her drunk friend to the bathroom to puke and then they got kicked out. 

But I think I have realized more what the issue is, why guys rely on approach invitations.  It’s not being lazy or scared, it’s trying to be perfect.

For me, it’s probably an artifact from running bootcamp.  You always want to run a good demo, and if you are going out as much as I am, and running bootcamp every weekend, it gets pretty easy to discern the DTF girls.

This game is messy.  You have to expect some bullshit, some rejection, a few slaps to the face.

If you always play for perfection you are going to miss out on LOTS of opportunities.

Now I can’t really complain about my success lately, but there is always another level, and I’m sure I am missing either hotter girls or more girls.

Something else that I’ve noticed to be an easy fix to this is alcohol.

You feel a little pressure to be perfect, so you just numb the perfection anxiety with booze.

You hit a level of indifference where you don’t care about fucking up anymore.

Watch out!  It’s a slippery slope.

True to my German ways, I enjoy a few drinks, but I am always conscious to make sure I’m not using alcohol as a crutch.

Do you have the perfection problem?

Go out and try to blow some shit up!

Get a girl to slap you.

Or allow yourself to be creepy.

Persistence is key, and sometimes it’s not going to be smooth.  Push through the bullshit and OWN!