Life is GOOOOOOD!
Just got to Berlin after a week in Stockholm, and I have a week of amazing night life ahead of me, and my first weekend off in a while.
I’ve officially gone out 21 nights in a row, but it’s more like 30 of the past 32, and I’ve been consciously noticing new things every night out.
Also I’ve gotten great news from Papa and Tyler about the Brad Branson Brand.
I’m basically going to be completely rewriting the entire RSD newsletter, literally between 300-400 articles over the next year.
I plan on organizing it so that each article sequentially builds off the previous one in a way to give a full curriculum and paradigm of game.
It’s going to be fucking sick, I’m super stoked, and pretty much under contract to do it, so it’s not like other projects I’ve hinted at but never came to fruition, this baby is already in the works.
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Anyway, today I want to get back to some on point material, and bring up something that I noticed while in Oslo a few weeks back.
After years of fighting through the leading sticking point, I think I’ve finally ironed out the last little kinks. There is a new way I look at every interaction.
The first night of every bootcamp revolves around the approach.
No matter what skill level or experience the guy has, I truly believe that the better you can get at starting the interaction, the more effective the entire conversation will be.
It’s all about setting the initial context RIGHT AWAY.
The frame that you are an attractive, high value dude, who takes what he wants.
The best way to accomplish this is to GO IN HARD! And I teach this through a few simple tips that are easy to implement.
1. Eye contact
2. Vocal Projection
3. Commanding Tone of Voice
That’s it. That’s all I teach. Heh, and a lot of other random tid bits that can really only be elucidated in person.
I truly believe, if you can master the skill of approaching proficiently, with 100% volition, good tonality, good eye contact, and a commanding voice, that about 80% of your interactions will open well.
Attraction is like a switch.
Go in strong.
Attraction is created.
Now onto the new way I view an interaction.
Basically the initial approach is like taking a plate, and getting it to spin.
If you open strong enough, that plate starts spinning quick, and you don’t have to worry about much for a while.
But, as the plate slows down, or if you don’t approach strong enough from the very beginning, the plate starts to falter, and you have to take action to get it spinning fast again.
If you wait too long, the plate falls. And usually after a certain point, even if the plate is awkwardly balanced and spinning, no matter how much work you put into trying to get it to spin on point again, it’s gonna fall.
How does this relate to an interaction with a girl?
Open strong, and get the plate spinning.
At some point, you can feel the interaction about to dip.
If you don’t make a move real quick, the interaction is going to start falling apart.
It’s similar to measuring the girls “buying temperature.” Is she hot and happy, or is the interaction starting to cool off?
As you get more experience, you can feel out how the interaction is going, and you can tell when it is slowly starting to stagnate, there is too much of a static feel to it.
So what do you do?
“Let’s go to the bar!”
“Let’s go meet my friends!”
“Let’s go chill outside where it is quieter!”
“Let’s go dance!”
“Let’s go meet YOUR friends!”
Whatever you need as a reason, you need to move her as soon as possible.
The problem is that if you wait too long, the interaction is like a plate that is totally off balance. Her buying temperature is too low, and if you try to make the move, she won’t want to do it because she is already starting to get bored.
You have to do it on a high note. Preempt the buying temperature drop and move her whenever the thought pops into your head.
This is basically the pattern I use for the whole interaction.
Keep the plate spinning, i.e. keep the high value, self amused frame running strong, and as you start to see a dip in the road… MOVE HER.
Over and over again.
Later on, this same “move her mentality” can be applied to any form of escalation. Physicality, kissing, pulling, closing…
Now as I write this, it almost sounds like I’m heralding back to the old days of being the entertainer man, or dancing monkey frame.
This isn’t about getting a reaction out of her, I think it is more for myself, or yourself, to still feel like the man in the interaction.
One, you can never lead too much. So if I can create some artificial rule to move the girl around more, then GREAT!
Two, social dynamics is a self fulfilling prophecy. If you go in hard, the interaction will open well, but as it starts to stale out, instead of just going into your head and wondering what the next step is…
As you lead, it conveys all the cool high value qualities that build attraction, and by moving to a different area of the club, it naturally gives the interaction a new flair.
It keeps you in a good headspace, keeps the two of you in the right roles, and makes the interaction fun yet domimant.
And it’s under your control. You are not waiting for signals from the girl to move, you do it BEFORE you start seeing bad signals.
Try it out and get back at me!
Brad Branson has been an international dating coach with the leading dating company Real Social Dynamics for 3 years.
Through his own success and teaching experience, he has taught HUNDREDS of men how to create the dating life they desire.
He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.