I spent last week in the Northwoods of Wisconsin sitting in a tree stand, staring off into the wilderness with Eckhart Tolle whispering in my ears.
No technology, no internet, just me and Eckhart gazing consciously at trees, rivers, and the animals that inhabit the land near my family’s property.
At one point, I came upon a flock of bald eagles attacking an old deer carcass. I literally moved within 10 feet before these majestic creatures elegantly glided away towards the horizon.
I can see why the American fore fathers chose the bald eagle as their symbolic animal. The power and awe inspiring gracefulness they demonstrated soaring above hit me with a weird patriotism/pride.
As we near the end of 2011, my recent disposition has been a deep introspection circa 2008 when I was fully immersed in Eastern Philosophy and Existentialism.
Now, coming out of last week separated from technology, introspecting with Tolle and Nathaniel Branden via audiobook, I feel as though I’ve pushed into a significantly new paradigm for how I view reality and my place in it.
What follows are my notes from the week, heavily influenced by the readings of Branden, Rand, and Tolle, and probably a crude fleshing out of some of the new concepts that I’ll try to elucidate over the coming weeks.
“Just be congruent dude.”
Have you heard this before?
People espouse that if you were just able to be congruent when you go up and talk to a girl, everything would smoothly flow into an exciting adventure of bliss?
I always try to conceptualize how UBER successful dudes like Leo DiCaprio or George Clooney would go about meeting women.
I’m sure it’s super relaxed, no-nonsense, just “say it how it is,” have some fun, and things smoothly lead into the bedroom.
But what if you don’t have HUNDREDS of reference points of success with the opposite sex that allow you to act clearly through your own intentions?
What if, in that moment you see the girl, you feel needy and nervous?
Then, to act congruent would be to go up and act needy, right?
If I were to sum up my entire $2000 weekend seminar into a one hour talk, this is it.
Now, of course, there is usually around 10 hours of seminar on the weekends, along with us going out and putting the concepts into practice, and lots of feedback which accounts for much of the value in attending a bootcamp.
But this seminar contains many of the key tenets that I bring up over and over again, both on program and through out my various articles here.
For those that might have skimmed through the video already, or if you are like me and can’t sit through a full hour long seminar, I’ve included a detailed outline below with TIMESTAMPS to make it easy to navigate through each segment of the video.
Just CLICK on the headings to go straight to each section.
It looks as though I’ve trumpeted some new RSD jargon with the extreme self love concept, and have been receiving lots of emails asking how it jives with various other RSD teachings and philosophies.
When many people first come across this new concept, they picture an “arrogant asshole who thinks he’s better than everyone else.”
There are two conflictions here, which I will attack separately.
Ever have an awkward situation?
Heh, want to know an easy way to smoothly glide through that situation without the other person even REALIZING that awkwardness?
I just noticed I’ve never talked about this concept before on the blog, yet it’s something I’ve been teaching on bootcamps for almost a year now.
The example I use is the lead character of the movie Catch Me if You Can played by Leonardo Dicaprio.
The character, who’s real name is Frank Abagnale, is the historic check forger/scam artist who plays a variety of personas in the movie and in real life.
If you look into what makes him such a successful scam artist, it shines a light on one of the most important principles of social dynamics that can COMPLETELY change how you view how you interact with other people.
I finished reading Atlas Shrugged for the second time while commuting via train between Washington D.C. and New York City this week.
Upon finishing the last page, layers of symbolism floated through my mind. The current political-economic climate, Occupy Wall Street ridiculousness, just the rare occurrence of me riding on a train in between my first ever corporate seminars for a tobacco company, the list of corollaries to my own life are endless.
I’ll keep this post pertinent to the book and talk about the corporate seminar in another post.
Before I even get into the book, I want to say that Ayn Rand’s teachings have had a HUGE impact on how I view the world and act in it on a daily basis.
I’m spending a few days in Cancun after last week’s bootcamp in Mexico City, literally staring at a palm tree outlined ocean front view with a beer in my hand as I write this. (tough to do, I know)
I was having a discussion with my friend Alejandro about the long term consequences of going out night in and night out, and how my mindset has shifted over the years.
It made me think of a question that I’ve heard before. “Do you ever get to the point where you no longer have to THINK about all this attraction stuff? Where it just becomes natural?”
To answer the question, I would say, yes, most of my actions could be considered “autopilot.”
I sat in Manhattan’s Washington Square Park all afternoon under a grey mist of light rain listening to Ayn Rand’s Atlas Shrugged via audiobook.
It’s my second time listening/reading it, and I’m taking notes so I can write up a proper book review.
A common theme throughout the book is that of checking your premise.
In the book this relates to how Dagny Taggart improperly perceives Fransisco d’Anconia’s actions. How, if she knew his actual philosophical reasons for destroying his legacy, she wouldn’t view his actions in a negative light.
This concept of “knowing your premise” is also important when interpreting advice given by a guru or mentor, whether it be dating related, or any form of lifestyle development.
Saad and I just walked through SoHo on our way to Spring Street Natural Restaurant for some grass fed steaks.
There was a moment of nostalgia as we walked past Mott St and noticed they were organizing some Italian/Mexican block party. We realized that exactly one year ago today we were doing the exact same thing.
Waking up at 6PM, heading for some great food, drinking sangria, smoking cigars, and ramping up for another night out. I LOVE Manhattan in September, it’s my new goal to spend the entire month here each year.
So here I am, satiated from beef and red wine, reflecting on where my life is today compared to one year ago.
The biggest difference between then and now, and even more salient if I look further in my past, is that I’m much more financially secure today compared to a few years ago.
It’s funny. I was listening to Tony Robbins tell his life story about how he used to sleep in his car, and later millions of dollars in debt, and I realized that every self development guru has some personal financial success story.
When I look at my own journey, and how my career has evolved, I realize that I seem to have my own success story in the making, and I’d like to impart to you what I’ve learned through the process.
Let’s start this off with a little thought experiment.
I want to ask you a question…
But be forewarned, the answer will elucidate exactly how clear your thoughts and actions are towards EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE.
I have one question to ask, and the answer will easily identify the true motives behind what you do, how connected you are to your life goals, and how stress free your day to day life is.
It will shine a light on your level of “spiritual consciousness,” the way you perceive reality, how you view your friends, work, and family, and how much emphasis you put on each.
EVERYTHING you do in life is defined by how you respond to this question, and the resulting thought experiment offers you a new way of living, filled with excitement and happiness.
Are you ready? Ask yourself…
It’s been a while since you’ve been to your friend’s house, and you can’t remember the room number. You wrack your brain to recollect the correct floor, jump in the elevator, and head to the room you suspect is his.
When you go to open the door, you hear the rumblings of a huge party. There must be at least 30 people inside. The door is slightly ajar. You glance in, and realize none of the faces appear familiar.
Is this the right place?
You call him, text him, but no response.
After what feels like 20 minutes, waiting is no longer an option. As you take a step inside, everyone turns to stare. Your eyes dart about the room, looking for some sort of familiarity.
At least you’re in the right place, and you find your friend in the corner. He’s hosting an impromptu party. Organized by another friend, and neither of you know more than a handful of people.
Let’s jump in and have some fun!
Would you feel confident in this situation?
Let’s talk about how we can develop a level of confidence where you feel completely comfortable in ANY environment.
I’ve been addicted to the second season of Mad Men for the last few days.
I never watch TV, but a friend borrowed my iPad and threw on a bunch of TV shows to help me pass the time when I’m flying between cities.
Love the show, Don Draper has a lot of masculine characteristics that I try to embody. But this post isn’t to talk about the show, more the weird funk it has put me in today.
Mad Men is somewhat of a dark slow drama, I’ve been watching it all day. Somehow between the weird darkness, and me feeling like I haven’t accomplished anything because I’ve been watching TV shows, (even though I’ve already written about 4000 words and bought a few new domains) I’ve fallen into a weird introspection.
Call me a workaholic I guess.
So while taking a shower, meditating on my current thoughts… I figured I’d use this post as catharsis.
I’m in Wisconsin visiting the family quick, and running errands before I leave tomorrow for NYC.
Even though I’ve taken the last 2 weekends off, it seems like there is never enough time in the day.
The traveling lifestyle literally STEALS hours from your day.
On the one hand, you have the dead time spent in airports, airplanes, taxis, and lines that you could normally spend being productive.
But you also have the added complexity of being in a different place all the time, with different friends/colleagues, and WANTING to spend time with them because you see them so irregularly.
Yesterday’s quagmire was a perfect example.
Yoyoyoyo, how you doin?!
I’m just chillaxin in San Diego, spending some time at my girl’s place, detoxing from 10 days in Las Vegas. I’m right on the beach and could literally throw a baseball in the water from where I’m writing this.
It’s highly conducive for getting work done.
I feel it’s somewhat a preface to how my future will be. Sitting on the beach, in some remote location, living the virtual lifestyle, getting shit done, yet relaxing, drinking…
…well at the moment, it’s a Negro Modelo. Muy bien.
I’m in a writing mood, I’ve already written about 5,000 words today. It’s been pretty intense.
This post is probably going to be some random stream of consciousness self development pyscho babble, so if you just want the game stuff, check the end of this post for a preview of my first 10 articles.
I’m just adding the finishing touches to my World Summit speech, and thought I’d take a moment to pound out a new article for this here blog.
It’s been a GREAT week. For some reason the World Summit always sets me off in a good way, and it’s given me a nice spark towards going out again and hitting it hard.
It’s probably because I’m here with all my friends who I never get to see regularly, all the other instructors and assistants that are only in one place once every year.
And God DAMN Vegas is better than I ever remember!
I’ve literally done 3 bootcamps each with 3 students in the last 9 days.
It’s been pretty grueling, but has helped me fine-tune some new concepts that I’ll be sharing over the coming weeks. Including today’s diatribe on why most guys get way too physical.
Brad Branson has been an international dating coach with the leading dating company Real Social Dynamics for 3 years.
Through his own success and teaching experience, he has taught HUNDREDS of men how to create the dating life they desire.
He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.