“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.” Henry David Thoreau
Just got back from a bike ride. It feels good getting out there, riding through the woods. Getting reconnected, regrounded.
I’ve been living in cities pretty much continuously for the last year and a half… Vegas, London, Amsterdam, Paris, Berlin, Dublin, LA, NYC…
Tough life, right? Haha
I’ve had a strong inclination lately to get away. Live in the woods. Without people.
So in the last article we talked about why the words don’t matter when trying to build attraction with the girl.
You know, it’s interesting because my verbal skills used to suck. I mean, they were shit.
But I got away with it.
That’s why I so deeply believe that the words don’t matter.
I had so much success with just great tonality, body language and escalating physically. To the point where I even became an RSD instructor with that dearth of verbal skills.
But I’m looking to reach the level of mastery here, which I’m sure many of you guys are too.
I have a deep-seated belief that when you approach a woman, WHAT YOU SAY has no bearing whatsoever in building attraction.
During boot camp we go through a lengthy discussion on why words don’t matter, and try to explain on as logical a level as possible why the words you use don’t mean SHIT!
So let’s make the list.
I developed my game in a small city. There weren’t even nightclubs there. So I had little experience pushing my way through lines and getting into high class venues.
Then when I started working with RSD and heading to places like New York City, Las Vegas, and Los Angeles I found out real quick that my buddies and I weren’t just walking our way straight into the club.
Luckily I learned from the best and got some great pointers on how to increase your chances of getting my way past the velvet rope.
These techniques have been used across the board throughout the world in over 25 countries now, and the same rules apply anywhere you go.
I get lots of feedback when I’m out doing demonstrations chatting up girls on program. A lot of clients see what I am doing and ask, “How do you get her to do all the work?!”
It’s what I’ve been all about recently.
I think it stems from the phase I went through a while back where I was getting resistance all the time when it came to the finals stages before we’d hook up.
At the time, it was probably some sort of lack of experience with a lot of girls, and a failure to lead, which I’ve talked about in “How to lead the girl from the bar to the bedroom.” but also, I’ve tweaked my game in a way to almost completely expunge any instance of the girl being able to throw resistance at me.
One measure is through being totally unapologetic in my actions and words, but here what I want to talk about is getting the girl to INVEST.
What does anyone want from an investment?
One of my favorite parts of boot camp is RSD Book Club timezzz.
I give a suggested reading list for what I think will help clients most after program, and inevitably the conversation dives into some intense introspective “inner game” talks.
When suggesting each book, there is a specific order in which students can reinforce the concepts they learned on program best, especially as it relates to the new reference points and theory they learned over the course of bootcamp.
Next time you’re at a social gathering, take in the social dynamics in action.
I can’t turn it off. I’m constantly analyzing guys meeting girls, couples hanging out.
Is it their first date?
Did they come here together?
How’s that guy doing?
Does she like him?
You begin to recognize patterns. Certain variables are consistent in EVERY interaction when it comes to one person being attracted towards the other.
One very important concept…
Most discussions on how to interact with women deal with what to say.
To an extent, what you say is important, but as the common adage goes “90% of communication is nonverbal.”
How long have human beings been in existence? 200,000 years or so…
For how many of those years have we been able to communicate verbally? Probably about 3,000…
So for the majority of our existence we have been communicating NONVERBALLY.
It was a quaint little café. Dark alcoves with plush couches, dimly lit by small candles. Cool chill house music permeated throughout. The staff always seemed distant, yet their pretentiousness somehow added to the vibe. That, or the effects of a few glasses of wine seemed to mollify their behavior.
The best part, it was two blocks from my apartment, and for a brief period of my life became my second home.
During this time I was averaging about 3 dates a week, always with the same itinerary. We’d have 2 glasses of wine, some superficial conversation, and then head back to my place to test out another bottle.
I’ve been traveling around Europe lately, and taken the opportunity to experience some of the traditional backpacker type excursions. This includes spending a decent amount of time in hostels.
What I’ve come to realize is that the hostel circuit in Europe is like a fucking underground sex orgy. Seriously, almost every night there is some random guy and girl hooking up.
These aren’t even guys with game. Random chodes are hooking up with cute girls.
The secret is in the situational environment that the hostel creates. You have a bunch of early 20 something year olds traveling around the continent, only staying in each city for a few days.
There are many advantages to having a tight relationship with your wing when out meeting women. It can really increase your overall consistency, and just makes the adventure more enjoyable.
There are a couple important factors to consider when choosing your wing, but one far exceeds the rest.
Picture her laughing at every thing you say, leaning in, and grasping at your every word, right from the very start of the conversation.
Did you know there are EASY, QUICK, and EFFECTIVE ways to start a conversation with that random girl, and easily move things forward to a relationship, or just the bedroom for the night? Haha
What follows are the best pick up lines I’ve found for starting the conversation and amping things up QUICK!
What makes me qualified?
Well, I’ve been teaching men how to meet, approach, and date women for over 3 years, in nearly 40 countries.
Through these simple lessons I’m about to teach you, I’ve helped HUNDREDS of guys get better results when out approaching women, with countless success stories.
Alright, let’s get started.
When I teach my weekend bootcamp/dating seminars, a question that comes up regularly is related to guys being stuck in “conversation mode,” and not knowing how to kiss a girl after the initial attraction period.
I remember my first club makeout.
It was like getting shot by lightning.
It was a few weeks after breaking up with my 8 year girlfriend. I hadn’t kissed another girl in 8 years, and all of a sudden, there I was, making out with some random stranger at the end of the bar.
I remember it like it was yesterday.
Too bad I’ve been jaded, and after literally HUNDREDS of club makeouts over the last few years, I’m more worried about catching the flu or lip herpes, and the cons far outweigh the small semblance of emotional gratification that I get from swapping spit with a random club rat…
Haha, sad story I know.
What follows are some of the best “kissing” techniques and mindsets that I’ve found, all combined having an INCREDIBLE impact on my students results.
It’s time to taste the forbidden fruit.
We’ve all had the experience. You’re walking through the club, trying to feel out the vibe, but something seems awry.
No one is making eye contact. They all seem fixated on something else.
Every man in the room has his attention on ONE thing.
You turn around and see her. The stunning gyrating gorgeous woman looking like god’s gift to mankind. She’s drawn all the attention, seductively dancing on the dance floor, soaking in all the validation.
You try to inch your way over, but guys are just waiting, hovering around, trying to get her attention.
You think about making your move… But everyone is going to see it! What if you get rejected?!
The music is so loud, how would you even talk to her?
What most guys don’t realize, is that this seemingly “impossible” approach is one of the easiest you can perform. There are ways to build MASSIVE levels of attraction with this archetype of girl.
It’s every man’s dream.
Having your cake and eating it too.
I’m talking about a drama free environment of multiple non-exclusive relationships with HOT girls.
But where to start?
Have you ever actually met anyone who has been able to pull it off?
Lucky for you, I’ve gone through the process multiple times. I’ll help you avoid the common pitfalls guys encounter when diving into the world of multiple girlfriends.
Brad Branson has been an international dating coach with the leading dating company Real Social Dynamics for 3 years.
Through his own success and teaching experience, he has taught HUNDREDS of men how to create the dating life they desire.
He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.