It’s rare that I get a question these days that I haven’t heard before.
But when this one came through my inbox, I had to think for a bit.
I’ve met a lot of guys in this “success with women” business, and I would say that most GURUS don’t even reach a level where they can ask questions like this.
But luckily enough, I know a few people at this elite level, consider myself in the same circles, and feel rather authorized to answer it properly.
Here’s the question, and my response.
There is a common problem I see all the time on program.
The student is viewing reality in a way that is not conducive to getting girls.
There is a simple tweak, which can have a HUGE impact on your results.
I’ll push the student to approach, and it’s going well.
The girl is fully engaged, her body language is completely turned towards him, she is playing with her hair and laughing at his jokes.
The interaction devolves at some point, and the student flounders back to me looking for feedback.
“How’d it go?” I’d say.
“Ehh, not very well. She wasn’t really into me.”
So I’m officially 60% through the 16 days of bootcamp madness. I’m in Barcelona now with 3 bootcamps down, and 2 more to go this week here, before finishing up the Euro tour in Dublin.
It’s been a good run so far, students have been great, girls have been plentiful, and the partying is straight madness.
I’ve been vacillating back and forth since the blog’s inception on whether to write up “field reports” here, turning it into somewhat of tweaked out Tucker Max style blog with crazy stories mixed in with learning lessons of sorts.
Well, reading Bukowski’s Women has got me jonesing to write up some new stories.
Some of you might remember the days of yore, and my old Abercrombie: Ascent to Elite Congruence Field Journal, and I plan on sprinkling in a few of those old stories, along with a bunch of new ones as well.
So get ready for some entertainment.
There is a new technique I like to call the “semi-open”, which I’ve found to be super effective towards building social momentum, finding receptive girls, and creating the proper dynamic for a great interaction.
This is a tweak off an old Tyler technique that he used for approaching a girl when she is with another guy.
He would use an old school indirect opener, something in the vein of “Hey, do you know where Mel’s Diner is?”
I thought this was just straight WEIRD until he explained to me the mentality behind opening the girl in this way.
It’s basically a non threatening way to “test the waters”, see if she hooks, and then you’ll know if she is with the guy or not.
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I’ve decided to announce the two current books I’m reading in an effort to create more of a true “book club” here on bb.com.
In the comments below, I’d like to hear your thoughts and opinions as we read through the book together, so check the books out and join in!
I hope to accumulate a large book review catalogue over the next few months. A big part of self actualization is reading books, so I figured I’d create a game plan for anyone starting out through the RSD curriculum and make the journey easier.
Something I have noticed is that the same problems you have at one stage in your development come back again, but on a deeper level.
It happens in martial arts as well.
Once you gain the black belt, you basically start over. Let’s say you have mastered the roundhouse kick, now it’s time to learn how to do it as you are falling down, or if the attacker comes from a different angle.
The same thing happens in you game.
Sticking points come back on deeper levels.
If you started out with having approach anxiety due to being afraid of rejection, it comes back again once you develop an identity that you are successful with girls.
Then you aren’t afraid to approach due to the girl rejecting who you are, but you are afraid of having your new found ego that you are “successful with girls” rejected.
I’ve encountered a new sticking point the last week or so.
I thought that I had already read Robbins’ Awaken the Giant Within a few years ago in audio format, but once I started reading this tome again, I realized pretty quickly that my life was about to change.
If you are working towards the goal of self actualization, this is one of THE BEST books towards understanding your emotions, thought processes, desires, goals, and just gets you living your life based on your own standards as opposed to living life in reaction.
I’ve never heard anyone explain this book in this way, but a constant question I hear from clients, and one I’ve had often in my own path towards actualization is, “How do I stop living my life in reaction and bring value from within?” “What is true self esteem and how do I get it?”
Even questions like “What is my identity?” “Who am I?” “What do I value?”
All of these are tackled and explained in a very easily understandable lucid context with ACTION steps towards creating EMPOWERING thoughts, filters, values, and belief structures to make your life fulfilling and FUN.
I realized I have been making a rookie mistake lately. I’m sure you have too and DEFINITELY lost girls because of this.
I’ve been in Berlin for a few days now, and there is a calibration technique that’s been affecting my success.
Well I guess I pulled once, heh, but I want to highlight this tip that I forgot about until this morning.
It’s something I noticed in New York City when I was going out with Saad all the time.
There are two different types of bars in NYC, some close at 2AM, while the late-night clubs are open until 4-5AM.
You might have heard Tim talk about the concept of “Rhythm 10-2” and what I want to explain here relates to this principle.
Are you going with the shotgun approach?
Just taking whatever comes your way?
There is a consistent pattern I have noticed with every guy who has relationship abundance.
Haha, I still think that’s a funny term, but I’m keeping it.
Anyway, each dude that I know who PIMPS HARD has a specific kind of niche.
Both in their own style, and more specifically in the type of girl they usually go for.
Yes, most guys start on their journey towards relationship abundance because they want the variety, they want the choice.
But as you fine tune your game, it’s good to find out what specific type of girl normally turns you on, that you end up talking to, and dating most often.
I’ve recently fallen in love with Tim Ferris’ blog.
I randomly had 4 different people, from very different social circles, email me separate articles all of which came from Ferris’ blog.
It got me thinking, hmm… There must be something to this? I need to dig a little deeper.
Ferris’ book, The 4 Hour Work Week is probably in my top 5 books that I’ve read this year, so I would definitely check it out if you haven’t.
But today I want to highlight a recent post that ties into my post yesterday on not trying to be the best.
There is a critical juncture that every man reaches in his journey towards “relationship abundance.”
Wow, I just created a new term, I like that.
Relationship abundance. Kind of like financial abundance but more fun.
Anyway, every guy I have met that hits the elite level meets this barrier head on. But to reach the next level of mastery, it must be transcended, and forgotten.
What is this barrier?
It’s an identity you pick up as you start getting REAL results and build some confidence.
The positive feedback loop kicks in, you become a hero in your own mind, and you decide that you will try…
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After intensive “research” traveling throughout Europe over the last few years, I’ve done about 4 Euro tours encompassing close to 25 countries, I have elucidated which cities provide the most fun and glory when planning your “pickup pilgrimage.”
Now let me give a preface to this list of things I look for in a prospective woman.
I have various proclivities that factor heavily into my scoring system.
Some of these include:
Drinking in excess
Being able to speak English
Not that big of a list I guess. Heh.
Also, there are a few Eastern European cities that I have yet to visit, so sorry Lithuania, Romania, or Bulgaria. I’ve heard great things about your girls, but just haven’t had the opportunity to “taste the local fruit” yet.
Here is the current list, with most of these cities being frequented at least 4-5 times.
I’ve had this weird insomnia thing for the last week.
I think it was due to the fact that my circadian rhythm never caught up as I flew over here from the US a few weeks ago.
Another issue is how screwed up my travel schedule is. Between waking up at weird hours for flights, and going out every night, my body has no clue when it should be sleeping or awake.
So I was having these weird issues where I would either be up until 7-8AM, and then sleep the day away, or I would be tired as hell, but right as I would doze off, my body would shudder and I would wake back up.
I thought I would give a little update on what I’ve been up to lately since there haven’t been any crazy pulling adventures in the last few days.
This week has been a week of balance.
For the whole Euro tour so far, I have been traveling around with a crew of assistants. Which on the one hand makes this whole tour a big fucking party, but on the other, it makes it hard to get any administrative work done.
But I have the week here to myself before the tour commences with the full gang of ruffians, and another 4 weeks of carnage, so I’ve used this time to ground myself, get some shit done, and prepare for the next few months so I can stay on course with a more balanced life and “ritualized” daily schedule.
Do you want to know the EASIEST way to get girls?
A technique that requires NO THINKING?
If I were to boil my game down to one concept, one thing that has unlimited capacity to continue growing, one mindset that conquers all…
It’s extreme self love.
Narcissism at it’s finest, this attribute is LETHAL when interacting with women.
I could very well see, when I start releasing products that at least one of mine will center around this topic.
As I’m writing this right now, it’s hard for me to actually write out what this so called “self love” thing is, so I’ll riff for a while.
Brad Branson has been an international dating coach with the leading dating company Real Social Dynamics for 3 years.
Through his own success and teaching experience, he has taught HUNDREDS of men how to create the dating life they desire.
He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.