I thought I would give a little update on what I’ve been up to lately since there haven’t been any crazy pulling adventures in the last few days.
This week has been a week of balance.
For the whole Euro tour so far, I have been traveling around with a crew of assistants. Which on the one hand makes this whole tour a big fucking party, but on the other, it makes it hard to get any administrative work done.
But I have the week here to myself before the tour commences with the full gang of ruffians, and another 4 weeks of carnage, so I’ve used this time to ground myself, get some shit done, and prepare for the next few months so I can stay on course with a more balanced life and “ritualized” daily schedule.
Nice run-on sentence there… Let’sssssss keep it.
I’ve been meditating for an hour a day, and it’s nice to get all introspective on where I am at and how I have progressed over the last few months.
When you are in the thick of it, going out every night, your sole existence, your entire identity, the act of breathing is to prepare for another night out.
You lose track of where the rest of your life is, your progress, and the status of your physical/mental/emotional health.
Similar to Tyler’s recent video about guys not showering or changing their clothes, this happens ALL the time.
It’s weird. On the one hand, all you do each night is go out.
But somehow, you don’t get ANYTHING done. All day is like mental preparation, and you forget to do things that would otherwise seem trival, or even worse, obligatory.
I forget to call friends, call business connections.
Doing laundry is a HUGE chore. Even things like shaving or cutting my fingernails gets in the way.
Yet, it’s only going out at night. What happens with the day?
Don’t ask me, you just get in a zone. It’s all you think about.
I think the day is mostly filled with catching up on sleep, talking about the previous night out, and consolidating reference points to prepare for another adventure the following night.
I don’t know how people could do this with a day job.
I just finished up another 30 day run, and posted something random up on my personal facebook profile.
I have a separate profile for college friends and extended family and here was my status:
“Last night in Stockholm, I’ve officially gone out 22 nights in a row. Let’s make this one good… Sorry liver.”
And I was amazed by the comments.
People were responding with things like “Unreal!” “You’re a monster!” and “Must be nice!”
Again, I am so sequestered in this little party universe, this self development encampment, I don’t realize how odd these things seem to look to the outside world.
I guess it is pretty extreme that I went out over 20 days last month.
But what they don’t realize is that I have done this EVERY SINGLE MONTH FOR THE PAST 3 YEARS!!!!
I’m going to let that one sink in a bit. Here’s a song to click on and think about that last statement while it loads…
So much of life boils down to taking action.
To master any skill, action is HUGE!
But you must also realize the long term process of mastering a skill.
I hadn’t realized this until I started getting really good with the RSD stuff, but I was organically applying the same learning process that I used to master the piano as I was for learning social dynamics.
I’ve been playing keyboards in a live band for the past 10 years, and playing jazz/cocktail piano for the better part of 20.
What I have noticed is that, just as in the mastery of playing an instrument, a 20 year learning process for me, mastering ANY skillset is a long term endeavor and similar process.
I see so many guys who get started with RSD because they think it’s cool, something fun to get good at.
Yet they have never been good at ANYTHING!
Never mastered ANYTHING that involves long term taking action!
Don’t delude yourself.
Do you have a proven track record in other areas of your life?
Well, at least this one offers more rewards than any other.
And let me tell you, it’s pretty awesome when it all pays off.
I’m starting to reap the true rewards of this process, and it’s oh so delightful.
Realize this coming in, you are a dabbler, but don’t let it take control. Don’t let your short term proclivities sway you onto the next “shiny sparkly thing.”
There is nothing more rewarding than working hard and accomplishing your goals, and there is almost no better reward than having a healthy awesome relationship with a super cool girl.
Or a couple of them…