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106 Comments | Category: Mindset
Hyper calibration…
Nonono…
Actually let’s go with UBER-calibration…
Nonono…
This isn’t an article about girls…
Life calibration…
Walking through the world with ease.
Excellence in everything you do.
I call it living the HIGH FIDELITY LIFE.
Hyper Calibration
There is nothing I enjoy more than a nice hot shower.
I jump out, enter the living room to find Tyler, Hunter, and J-Life chatting about who-knows-what.
They look over, and I bat the hair out of my face.
Tyler just laughs.
“DUDE! Everything you do is like HYPER-calibrated!”
It’s all unconscious.
Everything from the way I comb my hair with my hand, to how I walk, to my facial mannerisms…
I say it’s unconscious, yet, I think a better explanation would be “semi-conscious auto pilot.”
Everything is thought out, planned out.
Smooooth.
Not in a hyper-calculated, all thought engrossing way. But more like a Zen, mindful, full presence.
I’ve always prided myself on this aspect of self actualization…
Mind-Excellence
It’s not the Zen fluffy mindfulness.
It’s mind-excellence.
Be great.
AT EVERY SINGLE THING YOU DO.
Some of my aspirations:
Be the best in the game.
Be the best at Mariokart.
Have the most Twitter followers.
Grow my blog faster and make it more popular than any in the industry.
Hook up with hotter girls than anyone else.
Have better mentors than anyone else.
Have a better fashion sense than anyone else.
Have better hair than anyone else.
Dance better than anyone else.
Have a better laugh than anyone else.
Lift weights with better form than anyone else.
Have a better taste in music than anyone else.
I’ll stop before I sound like a complete arrogant asshole, but:
Be the best in everything you do!!!!!!
WAIT!!!
If you are an avid reader of the blog, you might remember this article:
Is Your Goal to Become the Best? Try again!
This isn’t a change in theory.
This is not about how you stack up to the next guy. Becoming the best is a BY-PRODUCT of a certain state of mind.
This is about pushing yourself to the limit.
YOUR personal best.
LIVING LIFE FULL STOP!
At the edge of your abilities.
Further than you ever thought possible.
Beyond your friends, beyond your family, beyond your mentors.
Striving for excellence.
Not just in big goals, financial, relationship, or health related.
I’m talking everything from the way you make eye contact with people, to how you fold your napkin.
But first, let’s deal with the bigger issues…
Why Most People FAIL at Life
To excel in any area of your life requires a great deal of passion, fully immersing yourself in the learning process.
But passion requires stepping up.
Stepping up requires taking a risk.
Taking a risk leads to mistakes and looking like a douche.
But mistakes are a necessary part of the trial and error process that leads to mastery and excellence.
There is an obvious reason winners keep winning,
Why the top 20% control the 80% majority of anything in life.
Winning begets winning.
Losers never start.
But why do winners keep winning?
Winners Have Won Before and Know the Process of Mastering Specific Skills
My first exposure to learning a specific skill, and the long road to mastery, happened at a pretty early age.
For whatever reason, when I was in 3rd grade, I decided on my own volition to play the piano.
I think it was because I thought it would get me girls. 
Anyway, I was also good at math, and the logicality of the piano integrated well with my analytical nerdiness, and I excelled.
I have played for over 15 years now, mostly jazz cocktail style, but some classical, and even taking a semester off of university to travel around Colorado touring with a blues band.
I spent countless hours in practice rooms doing repetitive scales, never ending band rehearsals, and actively listening to the best musicians, immersing myself in the music, developing both a high level of dexterity and understanding of music theory.
Through this process, I subconsciously learned how important PASSION and IMMERSION are on the journey towards mastery.
Masters don’t dabble.
The same way you build a successful business is the same method of successful entrepreneurs and PLAYERS, whether in the sporting arena, or in the night club. 
It was only recently that I realized I have applied this same long term learning process over and over again.
Whether it be in as mundane a skill as efficiently packing my suitcase, or something more complex like success with women, each time I used a similar process.
And with each new success, came a higher level of confidence.
I slowly started to feel that I could master ANYTHING.
This blanket confidence has become ubiquitous in EVERY ACTION I TAKE IN LIFE.
What are the qualities that lead to this mastery and excellence?
Taking Responsibility
People are quick to pass blame.
You must take responsibility.
It takes a higher level of consciousness to stop living your life in reaction to the environment, and start taking control of the reigns.
If something goes wrong, take a step back and objectively try to see what you could have done differently to change the outcome.
Don’t pass blame on others.
Don’t pass blame on the environment.
Don’t pass off the responsibility and blame it on being sick, or that you were tired.
Objectively look at your situation or experience, and determine how you could change the result for the better next time.
Win-Learn.
Not win-lose.
But even more so of true mastery, even if you win, take a step back and see how you could improve.
Trust in the Process
What creates the ability to not develop emotional frustration and passing off the responsibility onto your environment as you drudge through the long road towards mastery?
Its knowing that if you just stick at it, be patient, and keep moving forward, success is inevitable.
This is why the winners keep winning.
They have specific reference points of winning in their past, and know the long process it takes to get there.
They know that road blocks arise along the way, and those exact hurdles are what create excellence, create mastery.
It’s the ability to push through the bullshit.
Jeffy uses the analogy of a master airline pilot…
The rookie pilot hits some turbulence, freaks out, and starts grabbing dials and pulling gears.
But when the seasoned veteran encounters turbulence, he calmly dials in an altitude change, radios air traffic control, and smoothly stabilizes the plane, all while explaining the situation in a cool-relaxed manner to the passengers in back.
If you haven’t experienced the ups and downs of mastering a long term skill, the second things go awry the mind starts chattering about how you are wasting your time, how XYZ is impossible, how you’ll never be successful.
Doubts.
Success barriers.
They reside here.
Dwelling on these thoughts give them power.
There is no place for self doubt in mind-excellence.
A Quick Game Example
I’ve been hitting the social media front hard and interacting with a lot of gurus in the “success with girls” industry.
I heard something funny in a speech recently, the “Guru” said something to the effect of:
“Guys try all these techniques and shit, all you have to do is realize that YOU DESERVE THE GIRL!”
Although I do agree with this, my game is almost entirely entitlement-based, after the speech some guy in the audience sheepishly raised his hand and asked:
“But what if you don’t feel like you deserve the girl?”
Aaaaahhh… there it is!
Sitting outside the positive feedback loop.
If you are new to the game, doubts are an ever present part of your day to day existence.
“Is this going to work?”
“Am I ever going to get good at this?”
“What do I say?”
“How should I escalate?”
“Does she like me?”
“Am I weird?”
“Is now the right time to approach?”
“Am I dressed right?”
“Is this the right way to stand?”
Realize that these DOUBTS are the only thing that actually hold you back.
Tyler talks about this in an early mastermind CD.
The glass wall.
The difference between the cool guys in school and the guys that try to be cool, is that when you stop trying, that is when you become cool.
In spiritual circles they call it the gateless gate.
When you stop striving for enlightenment, that’s when you become enlightened.
You work so hard to become “enlightened,” or more accurately, a higher level of consciousness, that once you cross through, you turn back and realize that there never was a gate to begin with.
It was all delusional thoughts and ego attachments that you artificially put in front of yourself.
So…
If you don’t have the confidence yet, let’s give some actionable steps to start the process…
Whenever You Have SELF DOUBT
STOP
And Replace it With SELF LOVE
That’s it really.
As you get better and better in the game, one of the biggest changes is how quickly you cut out negative thought patterns.
They don’t even become patterns, before the thought fully arises, you’ve already shunted it, and turned it on it’s head.
No more “what’s wrong with …?”
It becomes…
Why am I awesome?
Why is this moment awesome?
Why is this girl WINNING when I step to her?
If you need help with the self winning part, I’m sure you’ve heard of self love.
You see how this takes the situation back under your control?
There is no blame on the outside environment, no emotions getting in the way.
It’s an action based, conscious decision you make to stop dwelling on the bullshit, and strive towards excellence.
Remove the doubts, remove the fear, live passionately, and EXCEL.
Back to Mind-Excellence
I like that term. Mind excellence. Mmm…
It’s excellence in everything you do.
It’s mindfulness down to the finest detail.
What you order for dinner.
HOW you order it, and talk to the staff.
Word choice.
Diction.
How you fold your napkin, how you WALK TO THE BATHROOM.
How you develop your business.
How you step to that girl with 100% conviction.
Having the confidence that you know EVERYTHING YOU DO IS AWESOME.
Why?
Why not?!
Doubt = weakness
Caveats
I’ll end here with a few caveats…
Remember excellence is not an end goal.
It’s a work in progress.
Removing self doubt, being mindful of your actions, and doing them with 100% conviction is not an excuse to stubbornly ignore your environment.
It’s the exact opposite.
It is paying hyper attention to your surroundings, finding what works, what doesn’t, and doing it BETTER than anyone else.
How do you know what better is?
EXPERIENCE.
Trial and error, watch how people respond.
How does it feel to you?
Congruent?
Incongruent?
Weigh all the factors, and slowly move towards full confidence in what you do.
I call the process “petrified wood.”
As you move through life and gain more experience, nothing really changes. But the trust in your actions and mannerisms grows stronger and more confident.
This leads to the cartoonish like effect that many instructors have.
Each of us have created positive feedback loops around our idiosyncracies to build and build our personalities.
The same traits build on top of each other, slowly evolving to epic proportions of grandeur. Haha
Hence rape vans, purple shirts, and diet obsessions.
Also…
High Fidelity is not Fake
As I read this, people who have not met me in person might think that every action I take would appear contrived, like I’m acting, or fake.
It’s not that at all.
It’s using the cumulative data of arduous introspection, advice from mentors, books, tests, experiments, and life experience…
TO STRIVE TO DO EVERYTHING IN LIFE AS BEST AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE.
How about one last example…
You’re reading it.
106 Comments
Brad Branson
Why thank you sir. I like it as well..
Andy Haze
Great article. It’s funny how things are beginning to resonate with me when before it may not have totally registered. It’s interesting how as your paradigm shifts different things begin to light up on your RAS.
Even how certain concepts resonate with you changes. Take how you strive for excellence in everything you do even up to folding a napkin.
A newb will take this and literally start micromanaging everything they do in a constant reactionary spiral of, “Ok, is this cool? Do I come across alpha? Is this good body language?” Which of course completely messes them up even more since it keeps reinforcing a reactionary state as well as a state of “I’m not good enough yet.”
I know I had this problem early on and it took my a while to get over and to really learn to accept myself. However, eventually everything comes full circle and I realize that the place where this is coming from isn’t from some external perception of what’s cool but your own standards of what you want for yourself. It’s more than anything a challenge you put forth on yourself to be the best you can be at everything you do. Most importantly it’s not coming from a place of lack but from a place of wanting to enrich yourself.
Anyways, it’s always nice to read this stuff to see myself coming into more alignment with the best. Good gauge to see where I’m at.
Brad Branson
Cool, it seems like you’ve been on a nice run lately, developing quick… Glad to see the progress and that my material is helping…
Obisco
I’m the first person to comment Brad.
Brad Branson
Haha! Nope. I personally moderate all the comments, so sometimes they don’t register right away.
Synergist
Fantastic. I’m going through some non-game issues right now and this hits home with those issues as much as with game. I remember you telling me about the gateless gate on program in rock and roll McDonalds while Owen did a play-by-play on whether or not I was unstifled as you were going through it, haha… nice to have a more complete breakdown here. Great stuff.
Brad Branson
Yeah, there was some good stuff on that McDs debrief sesssion. A couple new concepts that both Owen and I have been teaching started to develop around then.
duckmack
Awesome! Inspiring!
Brad Branson
Thanks man!
Cheqe
This is exactly what I’ve tried to do during the last 2 months 
Awesome writing!
Brad Branson
Cool, what made you start?
Cheqe
I really just got tired of doubting myself. Life is a lot more stress free now and feels somehow easier.
Brad Branson
Yep, totally agree. It’s amazing how much doubt creates stress, and how a lot of it stems from fear…
Alex
Can u hear me singing Awesomeee
Brad Branson
No. But I’m glad you commented the same thing.
David
Excellent post Brad!
I think we have so much in common!
Stay awesome, man!
Brad Branson
If you have things in common, then you’re on a good path. haha
Krish J
Very Nice, Brad.
SriLankaEddie
WHOA!!! Mind blown to shit, once again!!! You have once again upgraded the quality of your posts (which is exactly what you are talking about in this article)…but seriously you are upgrading the quality of your posts at an exceedingly fast rate…well done sir…well done!!!…i need to get my shit together ASAP because we have some collaborative co-creation to do…i need to step up my lifestyle right quick…i see our paths crossing soon…it is inevitable…but as of right now you are on another level and i need some catching up to do…GOD DAMN BRADLEY you’ve inspired me once again…big things in the work man…future looks great…and put out some PROGRAM or some shit…i want to financially support you on your path…you have the potential to shift the world into a whole new paradigm…a whole new way of living…we’ve got a lot of work to do kid….LEGGGOOOO
Brad Branson
Thanks for the super positive feedback. Glad I can help!
Distressed
Hi Brad
I like how your passion for life exhibits itself in your writing, your goals, your thought processes. It must be awesome living in your headspace.
Anyway I have two questions and I hope you’d take your time out from your busy schedule to respond.
How does one kickstart passion for life, especially if one is in an extended slump?
My next question pertains to attaining mind excellenc. How does one eliminate self-doubt and fear, especially if the fear is erroneous and or irrelevant?
I for example think i have this neurosis in which basically i tell myself that i can’t be a true man unless i learn to take physical pain, and pull out a tooth without anaesthetic or something along those lines. Weird right, but I feel like a coward because of it. Perhaps it has come from watching too many historical films like Braveheart and the Passion of Christ. I feel I can never match their feats and call mysef a true man.
Do we ignore such ‘fears’ on the basis that they are unproductive and irrelevant to this modern day and age? Or is it something we have to conquer via achievement? Don’t fear to speak truthfully, I am a coward at heart and have never dared to resort to self-harm before.
Brad Branson
Positivity is a choice. You just start doing it, and slowly build new neural pathways which make you start thinking positive more quickly in the future.
Just make that decision, and start training your mind. It will take time.
This is the same will power training to be a man of action, or to persevere through the bullshit, or to realize that you don’t need pain or scarcity or anything to move forward.
It’s all delusional thought processes, only give power to the ones that move you forward.
Rick
Yep, this is what it’s all about.
Amazing article that I will be coming back to frequently, BOOKMARKED.
Brad Branson
Sweet, glad you liked it.
pringles
HAHAHAHA…i know everyone writes this sort of shit…..but i actually just wrote something that was on this topic
It distubes me how similar people who are on the right path think.
Read the last paragraph and have a laugh mate
Brad Branson
Nice, and yep, you have to keep the spark alive in the pick up stuff. Otherwise it feels like you are just going through the motions…
Molan
Damnnn Man this is your best so far together with the self love article! More Like This!
Molan
This is so damn true:
“As you move through life and gain more experience, nothing really changes. But the trust in your actions and mannerisms grows stronger and more confident.”
life stay the same …all the major changes are internal
Brad Branson
Ya, it felt similar to the self love article as I wrote it, and I think it will have a similar impact long term.
Thanks!
VidarM
This. article. might. just. change. my. life.
If I let it, and if i dare.
I don’t even have any questions.
Just noticed the box to check if I get any replies! LOVE it
Brad Branson
Haha, glad you enjoyed it.
And ya, that subscribe via email function has been there for a few months now. ;P
I’ll hit you up soon about scandinavia
Steve
This is TIGHT, Brad. It’s almost like one of those all-encompassing articles that very indirectly teach you all you need to know to be great.
Brad Branson
Thanks dude, ya, I agree. High Fidelity LIFE
Matthew
Excellent article, Keeping this in mind when I go out tonight.
Brad Branson
Great! Remember, this is about ALL the time too tho…
furetosan
Like the McKenna reference, but I’m still in the “breakdown” phase, I guess. Pointlessness.
Brad Branson
Haha, yep I did hear it from Jed first. It is much older than that tho. I think it’s an old Buddha line…
Michael Cherry
Oooo I like this one, actually felt the energy within the writing. Almost like you’ve stumbled upon something awesome and you cant wait to unleash it onto the community.
Reading this gave me a strong sense of “i’m awesome, nothing really matters.. happiness is a choice”..
Really what I needed at this point. Thanks mate.
Brad Branson
Cool that you noticed that. I was definitely in a very “inspired” headspace as I wrote the article.
The music track went along well too, so I just through it on repeat…
Michael
This is crazy!!, I don’t think you’ll ever know how much of an impact this stuff has on people, this type of shit changes peoples lives, including mine. Thanks man, will definitely continue to visit your blog and support the different stuff you put out. Keep it up!
Brad Branson
Thanks man, it means a lot.
I’ll be interested to see where things go from here, what the next level of epiphanies and paradigms are, and how they’ll play out in the teaching process.
Again, glad you all are getting something out of these articles…
Michael
And as I was reading this I just keep thinking of the different principals your talking about having a spiritual context. I’m most familiar with christian beliefs so I’m not sure of the others but I know theres bible verses like Proverbs 23:7 (KJV) and 2 Corinthians 2:10 (KJV) that tie into what your saying. Like controlling every thought and making a conscious effort to better your self starting internally.
Its just a very interesting topic because I feel like this is not just talking about women anymore which is very surface layer, but the very core of being happy in life and succeeding.
Michael
typo should be ** 2 Corinthians 10:5 (KJV) **
Shahed
This is one of my all-time favorites.
Hahaa…. you are well on your way to fulfilling your life goal of becoming the Dos Equis dude
Hope all is well!!
-S
Brad Branson
Me too.
And yes, Dos Equis man is my role model!!!
VD
Beautiful man.
Something hit you this time or you were on LSD.
It’s like watching a car you really like. Somehow you know the design of that car is the expression of your own inner vision and that’s why you like the car and identify yourself with it.
You nailed that design and proved your point within the way the article itself was written.
Brad Branson
Sweet, again that’s cool that you guys noticed this. I was very present, enthusiastic and inspired as I wrote the article, and I hope I’ll be able to consistently bring this feeling out in future posts.
K
pure gold
Miles
1. Awesome article
2. If you are supposed to consciously strive to be the best in everything that you do how doesn’t this conflict with the glass wall reference that you made later in the article because you are still trying to do something and not actually doing
3. Does this mindset become unconscious after a while?
Brad Branson
2. The glass wall is in reference to how you view yourself compared to others. You stop comparing yourself all together, and just strive for your personal best.
3. It is very much unconscious. It’s similar to if you aren’t used to thinking postiively, at first, it is hard, the negative thoughts come up, and you have to conscious stop them.
Then over time, you automatically view the positive as opposed to the negative.
Thankful student
I’m sure you know this, but this stuff changes lives. Keep up the GREAT work.
Brad Branson
Thanks man. This sort of thinking has DEFINITELY changed my life…
Martin Crowe
Got a lot out of this – I’m at the stage now where a consistently positive mindset is everything. Thanks.
Brad Branson
It’s always the right stage to start cultivating a positive mindset. I’ve said it before, but I think the positive reframe is the secret to happiness in life.
Balwin Ratra
im trying to stop reading about pick up and solely focus on field experience but your articles are just too sick lol i subscribed
Brad Branson
You better! This shit is more than pickup bro!!!
It’s life philosophy!!!
Nick
Hey Dude,
I haven’t see intent described like this anywhere else.
The way you breakdown the stream of intent underpinning all of the actions you take makes this a lot clearer.
It helps me understand intent vs freedom from outcome articles too, I normally interpret intent as just being horny.
This expands it out, its more holistic.
Cool.
Brad Branson
I never thought of it as intent before, but TOTALLY.
That’s sweet, I completely agree.
Dustin
Wow! I really like this article Brad. When I was reading it, I immediately decided to take action and fixed my posture. Sick I idea; Just be the best at everything you do! Haha, it really makes choices much simpler!
Brad Branson
Haha, it sounds easy right?
Just be awesome at everything…
Simple but not easy….
beasy
I have a feeling you have seen The Secret and The Qauntum Activist. I really have been getting into quantum physics lately and I think its crazy how related all that is to success and mental excellence. At the same time its further explaining the entire universe!
On becoming excellent at everything you do. How can you immerse yourself but still live? As The qauntum activist says, “its not really do do do be be be, its more like do be do be do”. you cant take to long of breaks in between doing things or you will lose motivation/momentum. I think the reverse is also true tho, if your constantly doing, you kind of shoot of into crazy land. Brian wilson style.
Brad Branson
I’ve seen the first half of the secret, but didn’t really like how mainstream it was made out to be, but I really like the Abraham Hicks books which the show is based off of. Never heard of the quantum activist…
I’ll check it out.
Drama
If I ever get married, I’m proposing to you first Brad.
Brad Branson
Too bad I don’t believe in marriage, heh…
DiHoR
Saw you in the vid on RSD nation Tyler posted from South Beach. The one where Jeff keeps stealing his food while he calls for you.
Then you come from behind, the Don Rising and I’m like “What The FUCK?! Is it just me or Brad is super-cool now??!”
It seems you really went to the next level and this Article explains it point by point.
Awesomeness
D.
Brad Branson
Haha, Tyler said that right after he said the thing above about me being hyper calibrated.
He was like “Dude, you used to be like the normal RSD instructor, now I think you such a caricature of yourself, you might be the funniest of all of us!”
Can’t complain.
VD
Hahaha, that’s a nice remark someone can give you when you are cool.
Will
That was awesome.
You write the most inspiring articles out there.
I get a little frustrated that I get on these quests to block out negativity, and excel, and end up back in old patterns without realising.
I’m saving this article to read over and over!
Thanks Brad
Brad Branson
Yep, it’s just a process of will power.
The first step is becoming conscious of it. From there, your mind will automatically start auto correcting, negativity will start sounding like nails on a chalk board…
Diego
This article really hit me
Brad you crossed the line of coolness with that ending XD
Thanks
Brad Branson
Ha!
Thanks, I kept rewriting that to find the best diction…
I like as well…
Tom
Got so much value from this… love how the posts just keep getting better and better.
Thanks!
Brad Branson
Yep, I’m procrastinating at the moment from writing another one, because I don’t have anything inspriational to talk about. Haha…
Dave
just put more purple shirts like videos
Buii
Hey Brad!
Thanks for this awesome Text!!
EJ
Brad, killer article! I have transitioned taking just information on game and putting it towards my life and being awesome all the time. One thing that always sticks with me from my days as an undergrad in a fraternity is this:
Diligence – whatever you do, do well and my success attend your efforts.
This is by far one of the biggest things that has helped me be positive, be awesome and make things happen for myself.
Stay classy my friend!
Brad Branson
Yep, a good quote by Napoleon Hill I really like…
“The man who does more than he is paid for will soon be paid for more than he does.” -
GaryBusey
To me, this is the best article you have ever written. Thanks for sharing it. Keep on doing what you are doing, because the inner work you got going on is a contribution to the world.
Brad Branson
Thanks, I think it is my fave as well…
Xander Kava
Damn bro,
One of the best articles out there, really. Can’t wait til I get enough fuckin cash to take one of your bootcamps haha.
-X
Brad Branson
Looking forward to it man. They’re FUN!
Haha
GaryBusey
How do you replace self doubt with self love?
You realize that self doubt is a form of self love.
Brad Branson
Ya, I guess, like the doubt stems from self preservation, which ultimately shows that you care about yourself?
GaryBusey
Exactly, on the surface self doubt is bad but ultimately it is a form of caring about yourself, just as you said.
Daniel
I’m currently working on pickup and dancing and I got a lot out of this article. With dancing there’s all this doubt that comes up and I just have to think about my transformation and the thing I noticed that changed the most from when I didn’t get girls to now, is the SELF-TRUST that replaced the SELF-DOUBT — which is backed up by reference experience.
I am going to focus more on mind-excellence and self-love. I was doubting your philosophy for a while but the more I get into the process of learning a skill (dance) the more I understand the need for self-love. I will continue reading this blog.
Ari
unbelievable. this is fucking gold.
this kind of life-calibration you described in the end somehow reminds me of Al Pacino
Brad, you are the shit.
Hunter
Well my mentors are pretty f’n awesome and I’m hell on wheels with Wario in Mario Kart
Thomas
Hehe, when talking about how you do everything with excellence, even folding your napkin, I start imagining you as one of the sparkly people from Twilight.
Jose G. Gonzalez
Thank you !!!
Jg
Zouhair
Happy to see that you put something out there that has a bigger meaning then girls.
You made me grow a lot too almost a year ago in Amsterdam.
And I’m also starting to realize a lot of other things.
Thanks
Alumni Amsterdam 2010
Akshay
A big hello from India! This my first visit to your site and I am just blown away with the content you have put out there! Inspirational stuff here. My self doubt and insecurities have brought me here and I have a good feeling about your blog being able to help me! Meeting you in person and attending one of your bootcamps seems like a distant possibility, but hopefully all the material on this site should do me good. Keep up the good work Brad! Cheers!
shady
Well, yes i’am Always excellent in everything i do
solid post though.
pramod shetty
Hi,
and want to know if the person has a slight stammering habit, how he can change his perception and become a true speaker. since it only the mind is considered the bad habit, in himself he speaks like a rock star…
Pikachu
I suffer severe self-esteem issues. Since i discovered rsd and such it has given me a bit of hope. I want to believe I can be the guy who doesn’t give a fuck and wonder trough the world with ease. My goal with all of this is not to get better with girls. I think that will become a by-product of my other goals wich are: being comfortable with myself and not caring what people think of me, living in the now, having self-love(i have none) and being the gorilla. This has basicilly become my MAIN focus the last few weeks. But I don’t seem to get anywere due to my low self esteem. It’s like a huge big wall wich i would do almost ANYTHING to break trough. It think the low esteem comes from the way that I was raised, it was a stressful inviroment and didn’t seem to get any affirmations troughout my entire childhood. It was all about how I lack motivation to go outside or having the some stupid interests that my parents had when they were young. I know realize my parents aren’t that good. The fact that i cannot accept my own body does not help the situation.
I am only 16 and this may just go away when I get older. But I’ve had these issues since I was like 10 and it f***ing sucks. I don’t want it.
Brad Branson
It is great that you are already working on improving your self at a young age. I highly recommend reading Six Pillars of Self Esteem and surrounding yourself with other positive influences (i.e. great books, this blog, motivating friends, etc…). Learning to stop identifying with external influences can be challenging and take time.
Elaman
Very interesting article. I can say I relate to it in some points since I also played piano since an early age and have improved in many other things the same way.
From my humble point of view, the really successful people that I have had the opportunity to meet so far have the “plus” ability to adapt to some new activity they don’t initially like much, to the point to make themselves enthusiastic about it in very little time. When this activity is no longer profitable, they can easily make themselves hate it and enthusiastic again about a new one. This is something very difficult to realize for most people around them, since they don’t know them up to that level.
When you are enthusiastic enough about something, most of the “guidelines” pointed in books about success come will come as a given, completely on auto-mode. At least that is my own experience.
Brad Branson
That’s an interesting perspective. I completely agree with you too. If you haven’t read Mastery by George Leonard, I recommend you check it out.
d4fl0w
I can say I am following you for a long time but I have to say this article is simply brilliant an by far the best I have read in a long long time !!!!
Brad Branson
Thanks man!!
Wondermang
Does being great at everything you do include spelling? LOL, reign=a period of ruler-ship. You meant “reins,” a strap for steering a horse.
Brad Branson
Oooh, nice call. I luv vocab so am always happy to be corrected on grammar issues. Nice call.
RB
Brad,
First of all, I really appreciate what your doing and how much time you put into helping others.
Ill try to keep this short. I just got into the stuff about a month ago and have decided to put as much time into as possible; which is not that much as I am on a golf team in college. Regardless, this new quest has brought up some issues (obviously) that are scary but also necessary to get handled. I am really into the whole congruency thing, and how girls can see right through an incongruent man, as can any in tune person for that matter. Right now, I am so conscious of acting congruently that I have psyched myself out to point of feeling like I don’t know who the fuck I am at all. This leads to all sorts of chodish thoughts like how can I talk to this girl seriously if I don’t even know my true passion or generally just how can I look this person in the eye seriously when I am questioning everything I say. When I have gone out I said fuck you to myself and approached as much as possible so that by the end of the night I am in a pretty confident not second guessing state but have no pulling power because of this feeling of Icongruency. It is ridiculously self sabotaging. So I’ve been telling myself that I need to figure out who I am before I can continue on with pickup, and clearly I have yet to get anywhere. I realize this is a pretty easy way out, but I would seriously appreciate any insight you have on achieving this congruency. I am stoked on finding your site and identify strongly with it. Thanks,
RB
Brad Branson
Congruency develops over time. For the beginner my highest recommendation is to focus on building as many reference experiences as possible. Go out and talk to girls with the mindset of “I am awesome.” You will learn to be congruent over time.
Hunter
To add to this, one thing that Branden discusses in The Art of Acceptance is that happy people simply make a choice 1) they say “what is good in my life right now?” Then mentally list all the things that are good SIDENOTE: I thought this nicely corelates with your “I am awesome” frame.
2) what needs to be done? this shifts the focus away from negative thoughts & forces the mind to then be action focused.
I like the whole aforementioned self-love frame to as it distills down many things to the core!
rahul
i hope u will read it…i love one girl in college..and she looked me..lots of time…she is famous in college…but i am not…i want to ask her out..what should i do…ur topics about this can work too dude
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He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.
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I like that term. Mind excellence. Mmm…
“It’s excellence in everything you do.
It’s mindfulness down to the finest detail.
What you order for dinner.
HOW you order it, and talk to the staff.
Word choice.
Diction.
How you fold your napkin, how you WALK TO THE BATHROOM.
How you develop your business.
How you step to that girl with 100% conviction.
Having the confidence that you know EVERYTHING YOU DO IS AWESOME.”
- Word to my momma’s momma. So on point.