Alright, so this is another one of those “half in jest/half shine a light on your foibles” type of posts.
I’ve always followed the 5 Friends Rule, and I’m constantly surrounded by super successful people. It definitely pushes me to reach my potential, yet at the same time, I’m always the least financially well off compared to everyone I hang out with.
Haha, I guess I have other areas of expertise to offer, but it annoys me at times. I know I’m intelligent enough to be as successful as any other dude out there, offer more value, resulting in more money, and I work my damn ass off!
Or do I?
I feel like I’m constantly busy, with never any free time, and I’m always trying to stay productive.
Hit the gym, reading books, hitting the club hard, and making sure to keep on top of all the latest instructor articles and…
Oh, hold on a second. I’m pretty sure most of you guys do that to. AND HAVE REAL JOBS.
It’s a weird by product of the extreme self love mindset, in that in most situations, this mindset is highly beneficial, but when it comes down to pragmatism and getting shit done, I can see how it’s gotten in MY way, as well as distorted many guys perspective of what they’ve actually accomplished in life.
Shining the mirror on myself, I FEEL like I’m always working hard, but when opportunities come up to move in other career directions, usually involving heading back into the 9-to-5 world, or moving to Nebraska for a few years, even though I’ve had opportunities to TRIPLE my yearly income, I don’t even think twice about turning them down.
I love this job too much. And the lifestyle I live, the ability to constantly be growing and move towards the things I’m inspired about is worth more than almost any price.
Well, they say one of the main reasons new business owners fail is because they start a business THEY WANT TO, as opposed to looking for a competitive advantage in the market place, or a specific need that a potential customer needs.
When you do what you LOVE, don’t expect to make serious cash doing it. That’s why teachers, or personal trainers aren’t rolling in the big leagues, because everyone wants to do it, so they’re willing to work at a discount.
Too bad being an elite player in the ILSS isn’t comparable to the PGA or NBA. I don’t think Converse is going to be sponsoring me anytime soon, even though I wear their sneakers to the club all the time.
Especially with guys that have a lot of success with women, if you’re getting laid all the time, your self image inflates to epic proportions, you feel like you’ve made it in the world. Especially with the RSD side of all this and the effort most people put into getting girls, when you’re on top, you’ve felt like you’ve found the shortcut to happiness.
But going out 6 nights a week doesn’t directly offer lots of value to the world, so why should I actually be rolling in cash just hitting up the club every night?
That’s just my weird delusional life, yet I see this all the time. Especially with guys that run their own businesses, and think they are working all day every day.
Is trolling RSDN really that productive? Sure, I can spread my brand by answering a few questions, but I’d probably accomplish more working on my email autoresponder, and sending an email off to hundreds of subscribers, compared to the 30 guys that will see that thread.
Or scrolling through my newsfeed on Facebook to “see what the competitors are up to,” instead of finally fixing that opt in box at the bottom of every post for Chrome users. Yeah, finally fixed that one dudes! (Please hit me up if you see any other problems that need fixing on the site.)
I’ve noticed how easy it is to rationalize low priority tasks into relevant and “important job related” tasks, and when I let this organically happen, I never get around to the really important, bang for your buck activities that are going to impact the bottom line.
So I’m starting to track EVERYTHING I do in a day, from when I take a shower, to how long it takes me to cook lunch. See where this time really goes.
I’ve only started this week, so it will be interesting to see where the majority of my free time actually goes, and how I’m delusionally thinking certain activities are “productive.”
Then the next goal is to create a to do list each day, and prioritizing, not on what I’m inspired to do, but first what NEEDS to be done to get the ball rolling for bigger, more long term projects.
Where in your life are you hiding behind rationalizations where you think you are productive, but in actuality, you’re just putting off the real important things?
Would you benefit from getting dirty in the details and actually writing down your activities minute to minute and see where your time is spent?
You might find ways to drastically increase your productivity. Or finally start that project always on the back burner. It could be related to work, it could be your diet, or it could be that you “need to get your finances handled before you start hitting up girls hard,” it’s all a comfort zone thing from another angle, and usually when you put it to paper, it puts things in perspective.
Brad Branson has been an international dating coach with the leading dating company Real Social Dynamics for 3 years.
Through his own success and teaching experience, he has taught HUNDREDS of men how to create the dating life they desire.
He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.