Boom! Another busy week, increasing my workload, but also hitting the gym like a BOSS.
Last night I stayed up until 6AM watching Pumping Iron by Arnold Schwarzenegger. He’s the fucking man in that movie. Totally worth checking out if you want to see someone with 100% belief, and at the top of their game.
So I had another realization over the past few days… My sense of entitlement just sky rocketed to another level!
I was out over the weekend, and you know the point in the interaction where the girl starts grabbing you, joking around?
Well, if it gets to that point, it’s DONE! Hahah. Not really, but that’s how I’ve started to feel inside.
I’m half inclined to think this isn’t even them noticing anything about me, but in my head, when she gets close here’s my ridiculous thought process:
“Don’t do it. Don’t hug me. It’s done once that happens. Once you grab that tricep, or realize how tight those abs are it’s over!”
I have such an added boost of confidence, it’s BEAMING through.
But the confidence is only indirectly related to the slow change in my physique, it’s more about the ACTION I’ve been taking in the gym.
Each repetition, each inch of movement, I’m thinking about girls. I’m thinking about MONEY. I’m thinking about pain, will power, pushing myself, and BLASTING through my comfort zone.
At the end of every session, you WILL be healthier, your physique will change for the better and you grow stronger.
I’ve been working on my abs for the past few weeks, and I think this was what pushed me over the edge and into obsession in the gym. It’s not that I’m vein and need to get huge muscles to feel a sense of worth, I do it because I can.
Like Arnold mentions in Pumping Iron, when I look at my body, I look at it through the eyes of a sculptor, and what needs work is what I hit up the next session at the gym. (Check out the pic below to see a work in progress… Abs just starting to pop. )
But I didn’t realize how intense it is to get this damn 6 pack, it takes full commitment, the same level of commitment I’ve put towards girls, or business.
I’ve done that before.
I want to go everyday. I’ve hit that point where I just feel so good while I’m working out. Not even because of the “runner’s high” or the pumped feeling, it’s a full on self development session.
It’s like the movie The Secret, and their visualization exercises on STEROIDS. (I don’t take steroids ok, that would be stupid.)
But as I’m hitting that last rep or 2, and my whole body is about to shut down, I start picturing that super hot girl that I’ve been afraid to approach, that same pain/fear that holds every guy from approaching, and how… Here it is… Pain in every part of my body, and I’m pushing through it!
I think about driving that Ferrari, the frustration and doubt that comes from building a business, and know that IN THIS MOMENT I am proving to myself I can handle any type of adversity, whether it be bankruptcy, some dude trying to steal my girl, or the 300 lbs. of iron pulling down on my legs.
I look at myself in the mirror, and I see what needs work. I head to forums and find the best exercises to sculpt that muscle. I check out youTube to do the exercises properly.
(I”m currently having a tough time pumping up my upper chest, gonna try out this chest workout today, we’ll see how that goes.)
For those of you guys on the low end of the spectrum, who haven’t been to the gym in years and scarily sit at 25%+ body fat, remember this is like ANYTHING else.
If you look at Arnold, and think “I’ll never get there!” you are looking way too far ahead of yourself. And on a side note, I don’t think many people ever want to get to that level, there are some fucked up looking dudes in that movie that you can tell are fully steroided out.
What can you start focusing on and change today?
Start cutting carbs, and start building will power.
That same energy and focus it takes to deny yourself from ordering a pizza, is the same muscle you use to approach a girl in the club, which is the same muscle that pushes you through that last repetition in the gym.
It’s all synergistic, and it all starts with that first choice. Check out The Primal Blueprint, start going to the gym once/twice a week. Start seeing some results and the ball of motivation will start rolling.
Also a few dudes asked about my ab routine, and lately it’s been a mixture of:
Planks – 90 seconds, 80 seconds, 60 seconds
Oblique Twists – 4 sets of 20 with a 10 lb. weight
Cable Crunches – 4 sets of 40 with about 50 lbs.
Decline Bench Crunches – 2 sets of 20, 2 sets of 15
Squats – 3 sets of 5 max weight, 3 sets of 10 max weight with 30-60 sec rest period.
I time myself in between sets as well, and keep it between 60 seconds for all exercises, except squats which is a 180 sec rest between sets.
Brad Branson has been an international dating coach with the leading dating company Real Social Dynamics for 3 years.
Through his own success and teaching experience, he has taught HUNDREDS of men how to create the dating life they desire.
He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.