If I were to boil down my life philosophy to one concept, one thing that has unlimited capacity to continue growing, one mindset that conquers all…
It’s extreme self love.
I could very well see, when I start releasing products that at least one of mine will center around this topic.
As I’m writing this right now, it’s hard for me to actually write out what this so called “self love” thing is, so I’ll riff for a while.
A lot of the mindsets I have cultivated are so internalized it’s hard to communicate them and teach them in a way that is effective. Especially when you only have a single weekend. You can only work so much on a “sense of entitlement” during a 3 day bootcamp.
So I haven’t had the time to flesh a lot of this stuff out. But I’ll try here…
It’s extreme narcissism, and it works great to keep your life fulfilled and building confidence.
It’s all I think about all day. If I’m drinking a water…
“Sweet! I’m drinking a water, no soda for me. God damn I’m going to be so money once I get a rockin six pack!”
Walking down the street…
“I’m just rolling down the street in downtown Chicago, heading to NYC in a few days, then off to Amsterdammmm. Damn I’m cool because I live in the coolest cities!”
Having ridiculous hair…
“I don’t give a shit about my hair. It’s so money. Even when it’s all fucked up I look cooler cuz I don’t give a shit!!!”
I’m always thinking about how I am better looking than every other guy out there, how I’m smarter than any other person in the world, that I have a better life than anyone, that my vocabulary is better than anyone, that my fashion sense is the best…
It’s borderline insanity. But life is insane.
I really have these thoughts constantly, and it builds me up. Pumps me up. Makes me feel happy at all times.
My life is almost completely stress free.
Now there are a couple of ways to cultivate this mindset.
1. It requires a very existential viewpoint.
- You need to realize that life has no meaning, it’s just a crazy story, and you can create whatever crazy story you want and be happy.
In Jed McKenna’s book, Spiritual Enlightenment the Damnedest Thing, he gives a good explanation of how to reach this existential viewpoint…
So I’ve created specific goals in my life, however those came about, who knows? Most likely social conditioning, partially just natural inclination.
But you can’t live by other people’s standards, you will never live up to them.
Create your own idiosyncratic standards that allow you to excel, to be the best, to be a “hero in your own mind.”
So I create goals based off of my own value structures, and whenever I take an action that moves me towards these goals…
I feel good. Damn good.
Travel, health, my dating life, financial freedom. Some I have pretty well handled, some I don’t, but ALL of them I’m working towards gaining a higher level of success.
Remember, you need to create life goals so that when you take action towards that goal, you feel good.
Let’s say you are working on those six pack abs.
Every time you grab a water instead of a Coca-cola, you should celebrate!
Get excited about the process, life is what happens when you are planning for the future.
“…for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so” -Shakespeare
You need to realize that you can view any situation in a way that empowers your reality, or disempowers it. If your mindset is going to be “I am the shit. I am the coolest guy in the world.” Any disempowering thoughts need to be immediately extinguished.
A good book that elucidated this point clearly was:
Ask & It Is Given by Abraham-Hicks.
These were the guys who were spotlighted in the movie The Secret. Although I think The Secret is cheesy, this book is great and gives you lots of hands on techniques for retraining your subconscious.
I don’t believe much in the philosophy behind it, the whole “we are all energy” type shit, but if you look beyond that, the book uses VERY powerful techniques for training your subconscious to only think positively and how this can manifest the things you desire in the real world.
So many things in life, especially when dealing with other people are a self fulfilling prophecy, so the more you can reinforce positive beliefs, the better chance you have of making them real.
Be cut throat on negativity. Do not even allow it to enter your thought processes.
Also, never talk in absolutes.
So if you are fat, it’s not that you are unhealthy. It’s “you are working towards becoming healthy.”
It’s not that you are negative, it’s “I’m getting more positive every day.”
As you start viewing things this way, it takes a huge weight off your shoulders.
You are less stressed and just overall more happy and fulfilled.
Don’t think that you need anything else.
You are enough.
Start actualizing and realizing this.
And life will become IMMENSELY easier.