Let’s start this off with a little thought experiment.
I want to ask you a question…
But be forewarned, the answer will elucidate exactly how clear your thoughts and actions are towards EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE.
I have one question to ask, and the answer will easily identify the true motives behind what you do, how connected you are to your life goals, and how stress free your day to day life is.
It will shine a light on your level of “spiritual consciousness,” the way you perceive reality, how you view your friends, work, and family, and how much emphasis you put on each.
EVERYTHING you do in life is defined by how you respond to this question, and the resulting thought experiment offers you a new way of living, filled with excitement and happiness.
Are you ready? Ask yourself…
What brought you to click on that link in your browser? Look at your environment, where are you? What decisions did you make to bring you into that room, into that city or country? Viewing on your computer or phone, what factors led to your exact life situation right now?
Life can be so engrossing at times, so overwhelming. Too many tasks, following orders, helping others, worries, fears, ambitions, dreams, goals, relationships, it’s easy to disconnect from WHY you actually do anything.
Back to the first question, why are you reading this right now? What are you trying to accomplish?
It might be purely for entertainment, as a parenthesis from the day to day grind of work.
Maybe you’re reading this because of a nebulous thought in the back of your mind. You don’t know what that doubt is, but you feel a lack, and your journey involves searching, hoping that somewhere out there, someone will tell you how to make sense of it all.
Or maybe you know what that doubt is. You want more out of life, have specific goals, and are looking for someone to lead you there. But what drives that focus, that intent? Where did these goals come from? What creates the doubt? What direction is your life heading? How is what you are doing right now, reading this article, leading you in the right direction?
Analyze your day to day thoughts and actions. Drill down, dig deep into your belief structures and values, and try to connect with what really motivates you. What are your true intentions? By perceiving your actions through these deeper levels of meaning, you get closer to the truth, and it allows you to create a more fulfilling life.
As an example, I’ll shine the mirror on myself.
Why am I writing this?
Superficially, I’m writing this because I’m obligated to write a new article once a week to keep visitors coming back to my website.
But if my only motivation in writing this article is from a task oriented paradigm, where is the inspiration?
Let’s dig deeper. I’m writing this to build my brand, to build my business, hoping that somewhere down the line I’ll have a large enough audience to create a successful product.
Now as I sit here nit picking and editing this post, it’s not as monotonous and boring as if I was looking at it purely as a CHORE that needs to be done. Once you zoom out, it gives you perspective and motivation to do all the mundane tasks. There is a larger meaning.
But let’s take another step back. Why do I even care about creating a successful product?
Well, I have a certain lifestyle that I want to live, and financial freedom is part of that. I picture myself writing on the beaches of Thailand or South Africa with a beautiful girl and a stress free lifestyle.
So now, as I write, I know that every hour spent editing this piece into something beautiful, creating a word of mouth buzz, results in more followers and a successful business, which moves me one step closer towards that kick ass lifestyle.
I also just enjoy having a large audience to hear what I have to say. Of course it’s validating to have lots of people comment, Tweet, Facebook like, or share my articles as a sign they enjoyed it. (*ahem*)
I would be lying if I denied ego validation as a motivator. I know the more polished the article, the more likely it is to spread virally, have more people read it, and the more praise that will come my way.
But let’s go one step further. Why do I want to be on the beach writing? What inside of me drives me towards a specific lifestyle? Why do I want a large audience and readership base?
Ultimately it’s because I want to be HUGE, larger than life. I want to create the type of leverage where I can offer as much value to the world as possible. To create change in others through advice, writing, speaking, and LIVING by example.
This one is big. Now it opens the doors to my entire life, and EVERYTHING I do.
So now, as I sit here looking at the room around me, and the tasks I have at hand, how can I move towards becoming that paragon role model?
I open the door to my refrigerator. To the left is some old pizza, to the right, fresh fruit and some grass fed venison sausage. When I’m connected to this higher purpose, the choice is easy. Eating healthy and staying in shape will not only serve as creating a lifestyle where I can lead by example, it will also keep me mentally focused and more productive.
I’m at the mall looking at purchasing a new shirt. Could this money be better spent on marketing for my brand? Does the shirt look professional, could I wear it onstage? Or could I buy a plane ticket to Las Vegas, create some amazing stories and teach what I learned from the experience?
If I’m reading RSDNation, it’s to find new content, and figure out better ways to answer recurring questions. If I’m on Facebook, I’m looking at competitors to see how they are marketing to their customer base. If I’m on an internet marketing forum, I’m trying to sniff out new ways to increase traffic to my sites and better optimize conversions.
I’ll get emails from guys saying I write too much about the lifestyle, neglecting the success with girls material. They freak out because I’ll talk self development, not the proper angle to approach a girl or how to deal with a bad text message. It’s because, contrary to how it might appear, my life does not revolve around picking up women.
I want it all…
And there doesn’t need to be conflict between your priorities to excel in EVERY area of life. It’s all synergistic. Your career moves you towards your dating life, which moves you towards your physical health, which moves you towards your emotional health, and back and forth and cross connecting to move you towards becoming the ultimate man.
Why are you here?
Is it because you are trying to get back at your ex girlfriend, trying to get a hotter girl? Are you making up for an isolated childhood, and you think if you have 3 girlfriends then you’ll finally be accepted by the “cool kids?”
You might be at work, feeling underutilized and just randomly checking websites to pass the time. You might be living in a shitty apartment with roommates you hate, and this is your break from reality.
Or you might be living a great life, and trying to take it one step further. You might be completely happy, or a good friend, and read this just to enjoy seeing me do what I do.
Whatever the reason, don’t stop there, peel away the layers of meaning and view things from a broader perspective.
Connect with your higher purpose, steer the rudder of life towards your destination, and start living through THAT filter as opposed to a disjointed myopic view of the world.
The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.
-Henry David Thoreau
That desperation comes from a disconnect between a higher purpose and your actions.
In everything you do, live life to the fullest.
You’ll notice that your actions and thoughts will take on new meaning. You’ll live life with more passion and motivation. You’ll be magnetic to the people around you, and the value you offer others will give you wealth beyond financial success, but true happiness.
Brad Branson has been an international dating coach with the leading dating company Real Social Dynamics for 3 years.
Through his own success and teaching experience, he has taught HUNDREDS of men how to create the dating life they desire.
He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.