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7 Easy to Use Techniques on How to Kiss a Girl
39 Comments | Category: Dating Tips-Outer
What’s up guys!
Today I want to explain some techniques for getting the makeout more quickly.
When I’m helping clients out with dating advice, (I’ve taught in over 40 countries now) a common question, no matter what part of the world I’m in, is how to go from conversation to kissing the girl.
Before you can even start the conversation, it’s good to learn a few pick up lines first. Check out that article to get a head start, and then read on to learn my top 7 tips that are REALLY gonna help when it comes to kissing a girl.
1. Get Physical First.
-One of the main reasons guys think it’s a big step to kiss the girl is because they haven’t even initiated any sort of physical touch with the girl before going for the kiss.
Start with a playful hug, or maybe it’s just holding her hand as you walk around.
This will make the transition much smoother.
2. Cut the Space.
-The easiest way to transition towards the kiss, is just start talking to her closer. You can then see if she backs off, or leans in.
If she’s all about it, go for it!
3. Know the Right Signals.
-There is an innate intuition all guys have when it comes to kissing a girl. You can just feel the moment. Whenever that thought arises, “Should I be kissing her?”
You should probably kiss her. The only way you will fine tune this intuition is by testing it, so whenever you feel it, go for it!
4. Escalate the Kiss.
-It is very rare that when you go in to kiss her, it is going to be a full blown makeout from the very beginning.
More often than not, it starts out with just a peck on the lips. Then escalates towards a more serious makeout session.
5. Keep it Playful.
-Don’t make it a serious moment, the more you can be having fun, the less logical the whole situation is. Keep it fun and playful, and everything will happen much smoother.
6. The Ear to Ear Move.
-Hehe, this one is smooth. Basically you go in and speak into her ear. Then at some point transition to the other ear, stopping in between to see if she backs away.
If she doesn’t back away, go in for the kiss!
7. Use Privacy.
-Any sort of escalation, moving the interaction forward is best done in privacy where there is no one else around.
This makes her more comfortable because she doesn’t have the social pressure of other people staring.
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I wanted to keep the list nice and quick so it’s easy to remember, but I’ve written countless articles on “escalation” and the right time to kiss the girl, as well as when is the WRONG time to kiss her.
Some other articles that might help you would be the post NEVER Kiss the Girl: Unless the Time is Right, which gives examples of where most guys screw up the interaction/relationship because they try to go for the kiss to quickly.
Another popular article is the Game Changer: The Kiss Means More than You Will Ever Know, which explains the true meaning behind how kissing the girl changes the dynamics of the interaction, as well as your relationship, and what you should be doing before and after the kiss.
Alright, I’m off to the gym. Check back for next week’s post, I’m super excited about some new exercises that have been getting clients AMAZING results picking up girls in bars and night clubs! So sick!
39 Comments
Brad Branson
Good luck on the diet, and nice talking to you on the call yesterday.
Hit it up!
Drama
Congrats on the blog status Brad. Watching you in the club talking to women is how I envision that “MAN TO WOMAN” communication. It never looks like you are talking to a friend — you can literally ‘see’ that sexual tension — if you know what I mean.
Great post dude. I love this topic! It relates to so much in the field.
Brad Branson
Thanks dude, nice seeing you again. Hope you had a good time on program!
VD
Drama told me you did one shot one kill. So inspiring for us. Signpost deluxe. Everyday your mindset of making everything even the small things around you to mean that you are cool, hits on another level.
Scott
This is great, as I’m getting to the point where I need to do the make out or actually I know things don’t always follow a pattern but any physical escalation you can break down. I’m good at cutting the space, then I’ll sometimes take a hand or two and play then can even lead around the club, it feels like eye contact is part of this too maintain dominance and just you and her in the club but can you break down steps to the make out being physical more or is hand holding enough. Grab the hands and put them around the waist etc. For someone opening well and getting physical but not always make outs when I feel I could. Also do you think it’s key to make out before trying to leave the club?
Thanks brad. Rad shit.
Brad Branson
The other article in the related posts about not going for the makeout should answer your second question.
As for specific physical moves, it always varies based on how tall you are, how big you are, etc.
Just make sure to keep your positioning where you are face to face, as opposed to side to side, that way she starts getting comfortable with you up in her grill. From there, like you said, physically escalate…
VGAlan
This is exactly what I should focus on, I got a solid opener, I get physical, I got great stories; It’s just the escalating.
Like you told me on BC, after I got the make-out with that Austrian chick on the dance floor: ‘Now you got her permission, next time don’t wait for that and just assume it!’ (Hope I’m quoting you correctly).
This is the next focus, thnx; you rock!
Brad Branson
Yep, always assume the best. Social dynamics is a self fulfilling prophecy. Whoever believes it more and is more congruent wins!
ChinaBoy
Awesome blog. Awesome post…following your blog since day1 (true story bro). The new version looks cool.
How do you feel about staying with the tension on congruence test/failed attempt to kiss?For example: You get a congruence test and you just stare at her unphased.
I read this post a really love it . The main focus is DO LESS and sexual tension.
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/183227
What do you think about this article?
ChinaBoy
BTW: I check your blog everyday since i got used to you posting almost everyday…Nowadays you´re posting less often.
Brad Branson
Yep, my current output is what to expect in the future. 2-3 posts per week. For extra insights check either facebook or twitter…
Thanks for sticking around and being an “early adopter”. 
And yeah, that post gives a good description of what I call the “gorilla mindset.” As I’m sure you’ve read the “how to be gorilla” post. The less you do, the more you assume, the better.
Nick
Thanks Brad,
Received a lot of value from the following lines,
“The makeout point is the end of attraction mode, and where I turn on the dominance, sexual verbal escalation, LMR prevention, befriending the friends, and getting as much of a holistic view of the logistics as possible, while maintaining a high level of sexual tension.
The true game is played POST makeout, but first you gotta get there consistently.”
Drives home the point that after the first make-out the next time you kiss her should be in the taxi or between the sheets.
Really enjoyed the Masterclass last night, its helped me step up already.
Brad Branson
Sweet! Good to know, I can’t wait to start having the full webinar for the masterclass… It’s gonna be SICK!
Greg
Hey Brad, Neil Strauss is looking for a “attraction and social arts” blogger for his new “Inner Circle” site. Apply just to see what happens!
“If you think you are up to the challenge, please email
manofstyle@gmail.com–subject line PUA BLOGGER–with a
brief bio and a few writing samples (or links to writing samples)
on the topic. Avoid pua gossip and personal field reports, but
focus instead on on advice, techniques, inner game, scientific
research, new developments, and general self-improvement–
ie, content that is directly useful.”
Brad Branson
Haha, I don’t think Tyler or Papa would be too happy about that… Thanks for keeping a look out though, I’m always open for guest posting on other sites!
Greg
Actually, I’d kind of expect the opposite. I don’t think Neil Strauss would give you the job because he would feel threatened by you and worry people would leave his “Inner Circle” for RSD. I have no idea whether that is what would happen, but the thought is hilarious!
Jay
so essentially, go for the make out when she wants it, go for the make out when she doesn’t want it, lead and go for the make out which covers basically every other scenario – since you need to be leading at all times.
Go for the make out in every interaction!
Brad Branson
Yep, any excuse to escalate is a good one. And the funny thing is, it’s almost more to trick yourself than anything. if you make it a rule, then you will do it with 100% conviction.
VD
Man, this stuff never gets old. Nice to have you back!!!
Brad Branson
I never left. 
Andy
Yeah! Loved point 3! Going for the makeout is a win-win situation! No matter what happens you CAN’T lose!!! Great way of looking at it!!!
Congrats on the 100,000 mark! WOW!
Brad Branson
Thanks dude, thanks for being a part of it!!!
Dave
great article!
btw Brad i know its out the blue, but you said you read lots of books from your iphone…how do you do it?..its comfortable to you? i’m a lot on the road and want to start using those pdf books that available on the internet but it seems not comfortable at all to read from those…
btw would love to hear on other apps you are using like you talked about the sleep cycle, or every app that help you in life..
great blog keep coming more! thanks!
Fabian
”One of the top 100,000 trafficked website in the WORLD, in only 7-8 months!”
Wow man that’s pretty cool and you totally deserve that. You have put so much time and effort into this fantastic site that success is inevitable
Btw, my dermatologist told me that 85% of the population is infected with lip herpes. However, as long as your immune system is working properly, you won’t have any outbreaks. Just saying, because I’ve always been worried about this myself.
GREAT ARTICLE, I love kissing grils
Brad Branson
Ya, true about the lip herpes. I do have my MS in microbiology remember.
It was more than a joke than anything, haha.
Brad
Nice article man. I have a couple question though. After the makeout I am having a little trouble closing. How do you prevent lmr? And what are some of the ways that you increase sexual tension?
Thanks Brad
Brad Branson
Check out the “never kiss the girl,” article in the related posts of this post and it should answer your question.
Allan
Haha dude! The whole makeout ramps up the attraction is so spot on.
I use makeouts to trigger shit-test and pass it.
If it doesn’t trigger a shit-test I get a makeout. It’s a win-win situation
Brad Branson
I agree, you learn a lot from yourself, but there is ALWAYS a shit ton to be learned from reading from others.
It’s kind of like a bootcamp, there is always someone more specialized who can show you the way in an efficient way as opposed to learning everything slowly through your own mistakes.
theCloser
Hey Brad!
So much value in your post!
If you have time, can you write an article on LMR, what are the causes of it and how do you deal with it?
Thanks dude!
John
First I’d like to thank you for posting all of these articles. I’ve probably learned more here that I’ve used in field than any other place. Keep it up man, you will get a ton of viewers!
Relating to this article, I had a girl to the point we had hand sex and I waited FOREVER to kiss her. We were cuddled up and everything… very disappointing on my part.
After reading this and leaving that venue with a small kiss, I will never make that mistake again.
Thanks again Brad.
BabyBoyBlue
This is Excatly what i needed to read, its a hunt.
Thank you very much, you dont know how much, but thank you very very much.
Burst of energy inside me
DrLara
Hi Brad
I separated from my wife like 5 months ago. It was my 2nd marriage. I am a single father of a 10 year old boy from my first marriage. About 2 months ago I met one of my son’s classmate’s mother. She was sad and said her life was all turning over. A year ago she looked gorgeous. The day I met her she looked sad, bad dressed, etc. She is a stewardess and is like 3 days a week in town. One month later she looked similar but we went for a pizza with kids. She told me everything she liked to do and she said she was separating. Since then we begun outing sometimes with the kids, sometimes alone. I tried to kiss her on the second date. We were at the theater and I dedicated her 2 songs, one by the band, and the other one by a street singer. She gave me a glass of wine. gave me her hand and while we were sitting watching the show I tried to kiss her but she did not want, she rejected me. Next week she and her son visited us and we had a bottle of wine while the kids played. She looked very emotinal and she was very flirty with me, touching me. I tried to kiss her but this time I was so afraid of rejection that it was only a small side kiss. Since then we have been outing and I tried to kiss her many times but she always says no. She says she does not want to do it because she has not separated yet. I dont know but the relationship is getting a little bit boring. I am very nice with her, give her flower, etc. I am a real gentleman. Once I asked her for a massage (last week) on my back at my bedroom and she said she just wanted to clean up her heart first, before any other relationship. I help her and make her some favor, and she does too. Now she doesnt want to make plans with me. She says we should go slow and it seems like she is taking control of the relationship. However she lets me hold her hand, she gives me attentions, touches my face, my arms, may neck, chest, and hugs me suspiring a lot. Man this is turning me crazy. By the way now she looks gorgeous again, like if her ego is up again because of me. So how do I make out and take her to bed?
DrLara
How r u doing Brad !!!
1) I still want to know how to turn things around with the woman that plays the come and leave game, horny games but never kisses) described in my last post.
2) I also want to ask. How do you overcome the “rejection mindset”, that concious-subconscious fear you experiment everytime you are right there in the opportunity time to kiss the girl, but miss it because of being delayed by the fear of rejection?
I was raised among men (all brothers), went to men school, so I had no clue of how to kiss a girl until I was 18 when I had my first make out that ended in sex. I had such a bad experience cause the girl dumped me 2 weeks later !!! so can u imagine having sex for your first time, all days for 2 weeks and then CRASH !!!…dumped. Well after that, I have had tons of trial-error experiences approaching women but stuck in the conversation mode most of the time (our culture has some influence, since it is a small town where everyone knows each other).
buck
hey can you tell me how to get a girls number on a first date
Dfhjv
Niiiccceee!!!;)
I’ll Have to try that!!
;D )’
Matthew
I’m goin on a date tomorrow, I hope to use the physical strategy for my first kiss. She loves to be tickled which I hope helps!
Jack
Thx sooooooo much this helped alot
Steve Romero
Nice article!
Yes those steps are crucial. It takes a bit of time to master them altogether but the reward, in the long term, is absolutely amazing…
About Brad
Brad Branson has been an international dating coach with the leading dating company Real Social Dynamics for 3 years.
Through his own success and teaching experience, he has taught HUNDREDS of men how to create the dating life they desire.
He’s coached in over 35 countries on 4 continents, developing universal patterns that ANYONE can apply, no matter what city, age or income bracket they come from.
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